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Starting
conversations with women is something that must be learned. You need to be
prepared with conversation topics, funny lines, cocky attitude that will
get a reaction without being an instant turnoff. How do you walk this
tightrope?
Practice.
The next step
is still yours:
I will repeat
that last statement: Practice.
You have to be
ready for every circumstance, every occurrence, every chance meeting with
women to start a conversation. Practice talking to women wherever you are.
Some great places to do this is your local shopping mall. Walk into a
store, pick something from the rack and talk about it to the sales girl.
Yes, it has to be a sales girl, not sales guy, ok? But keep in mind, she
has to talk to you, she's paid to be there. You're not really getting
anywhere but more experienced talking to women. Don't come across as a
stalker.
Say something
that needs a response, for example:
Look at a ladies shirt (book, magazine, pots and pans) and say "Do you
have anything to go with this for my mom?", after her reply, whatever it
is, say something like "Can I get her to call you if she doesn't like it?"
Think cocky
and funny. Keep your comments to her funny but say them straight. It's the
calm delivery that will get you past the first couple of words.
After a few
days of practice on sales girls you can graduate to other female shoppers.
And actually ask for email addresses and phone numbers. Rejection is
expected, it's how you handle it that will make you a success in meeting
women. Here is a recent email that will help you understand the practice
aspect of this technique.
Hi,
I'm only 18 and even look young for my age, I got into this newsletter
while researching about attraction for a college level course I was taking
in High school. I've found out about pheromones, facial and body symmetry,
gestures, colors etc... You're newsletters surprised me the most. It makes
sense to me just reading what you have to say, realizing that the things
you "need to do" aren't seemingly nice or logical, but they work. Before
your newsletters, I thought that I looked too young or something negative
about myself.
But recently, I've had amazing "luck" with girls because of the things
I've learned from you. I had been introduced to a very attractive girl
from out of town a few days ago and have been trying some of your
techniques. I've made eye contact and waited for her to look away first,
been C & F, teased with sexual contact leaving her dumbfounded and wanting
me more etc. etc. All I can say is that it's amazing how your strategies
work, like learning how to ride a bike. This girl just left back to her
home town and is calling me non stop almost every day. Unfortunately, I
can't get to the part where I can buy your book, the window just closes.
I'd love to read it for more information but if it's possible, could you
just send out more examples of great things you've done so that I'll have
more examples of different situations? I loved the ones you've used of
waitresses or at bars, but what about other places, other conversations
that might trigger different C & F comments? Thanks again!
I-Colorado.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, if you ever have any kind of trouble ordering something from
me, or problems with the website, just shoot an email to either questions
or support @doubleyourdating.com
One thing I've found out in the last couple of years is that the internet
is FAR from perfect. There are all kinds of strange issues that come up
online, and most of them are little technical things that can be fixed
easily. So shoot in an email if you ever need help.
To answer your question, I think you should take some time yourself and
think through various situations...
Take out a piece of paper, and write "Bookstore" at the top.
Then list 3 different situations:
1) She's reading a magazine
2) She's in the romance section.
3) She's in line at the counter.
Then, under each one, come up with 10 different possible comments you
could make. If you take some time and THINK about it, you'll come up with
all kinds of great stuff. Join my weekly newsletter, you'll get some
killer ideas as well.
**************
This guy was
able to explain in a few paragraphs a concept and technique that I
personally use, but have been unable to actually explain and verbalize
well. I wish I would have written what you're about to read, but I didn't
(But I'm still a cool guy because I wrote what came before and after it).
Check this out...
Dave,
I'm still having great success with a rekindled marriage using you're Tips
on my wife. Thanks a million. Listen, I keep reading over and over in the
newsletters guys wanting to know how to start, then keep a conversation
going with women. I work for a major oil company and have been through
many of there training courses on dealing with people. One particularly
interesting course was on "Information Seeking". For this we first
practiced picking up on "Key words or phrases" the subject said. For
instance, I'll try and give an example using c&f even though you wouldn't
use this professionally on the job. Lets say you see this great looking
chick on the street and you tell her, "That's an unusual looking dress
you're wearing. Was that made out of a shower curtain?" She says," Your
mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy store." Key Words: Old Navy.
"Oh, so you're in the Navy, huh?" "No silly. You know, the big store over
at the Mall." Key word: Mall. "Oh, so you like going to the Mall and
buying strange looking dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy them also?"
"My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I'll have
you know!" Key phrases: "girlfriends are neat dressers" and "dress is
popular". "Well, if your girlfriends are neat dressers in a popular dress
like you're wearing then I'm going into the shower curtain clothing
business..." I know, this is a lame example but the lessons are this.
1) You start a conversation with however you want then pick out key words
or phrases from what the person says.
2) You repeat them in what you say then listen for new key words in there
next response.
3) You add a little something new into the conversation REPEATING there
words you're using as Key words or
phrases. This tells them you're listening, even though you're turning
things around to be c/f in this situation.
Once we learned to keep someone talking for 5 minutes, then 15 minutes the
company actually hired total strangers from a job soliciting company to
come and be our subjects. While being videotaped we had to get the person
talking and keep them talking for 30 minutes. One important note: If a
person brings up something personal or whatever, they wouldn't have
mentioned it if they didn't want to talk about it. These are great to Key
in on. My subject mentioned she was going through a divorce and her
ex-husband was a total jerk. I keyed in on this and it's amazing what a
total stranger will tell you once you build a little rapport. When
watching the video you pick up on mistakes or you see something different
you could have said. You also pick up on Key words and phases you missed.
It just takes a little practice. This is just one example of how you can
start a conversation and keep it going. Hopefully it can be of help to
you're readers.
JTM
Texas
MY COMMENTS:
Awesome.
This is an EXCELLENT description of how to keep a conversation going, keep
it interesting and unpredictable, and talk about ANYTHING and have it be
fun.
Read it again.
Now let me sprinkle a little magic dust on this, and tell you how I use
this technique personally.
When I'm having a conversation with a woman, I'm not just listening for
ANY key word... I'm listening for a particular KIND of key word (or
words).
I'm always on the alert for any words or phrases that can be twisted,
turned around, misinterpreted, and misconstrued (is that a word?) in one
of a few particular ways...
...namely in a way that says she stupid, ditzy, sexually crazed, or acting
suspicious.
For instance, in your example above you suggested the following:
"That's an unusual looking dress you're wearing. Was that made out of a
shower curtain?" She says," Your mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy
store." Key Words: Old Navy. "Oh, so you're in the Navy, huh?" "No silly.
You know, the big store over at the Mall." Key word: Mall. "Oh, so you
like going to the Mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? Do your
girlfriends buy them also?" "My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress
is very popular I'll have you know!" Key phrases: "girlfriends are neat
dressers" and "dress is popular". "Well, if your girlfriends are neat
dressers in a popular dress like you're wearing then I'm going into the
shower curtain clothing business..."
Good. Nice one.
Now, let's dial it up a little bit...
She says "No, I bought this from the Old Navy store..."
Instead of just keying into "Navy" and saying "Oh, so you're in the navy,
huh?", why not take it to the next step and actually MAKE FUN of her.
"Oh, so is this what guys used to wear in the Navy a long time ago... in
the OLD Navy?"
Now you're BUSTING on her as well, AND it's funny. She says "No silly. you
know, the big store over at the Mall." You might try "What kind of MALL
are YOU shopping at? And do your girlfriends buy dresses like that one
too?"
Again, you're hinting that she has funky taste and she shops in weird
places. She says "My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress
is very popular I'll have you know!"
You could go with "Oh, you have girlfriends? You have more than one? Do
they all know that you think of them as a girlfriend? Or is one of them
the special one? By the way, if you have cute girlfriends, then I think
you and I are going to get along VERY well."
...are you with me here?
What I'm doing is NOT ONLY looking for key words to latch onto, but I'm
ALSO looking for ways to spin them to make fun, tease, and subtly suggest
various kinds of "racy" topics.
When done in a funny way, it's magic. Once upon a time, a guy I know very
well went into a nightclub. He was talking to a girl at that club for
awhile, when she said "Well, I'm getting tired. I think it's time for me
to go home." The guy answered "Go HOME?! I just met you. I'm not going
HOME with you!"
She said "No, I mean I'M going home. I'm tired."
He shot back "Maybe you don't hear me. I'm not going home with you, so
don't even ask anymore."
She said "No, that's not what I'm saying..."
He replied "And besides, I'm sure my place is nicer than yours... so if
anything, you're coming home with ME."
This went on and on for about an hour or so. And you guessed it, she went
home with him.
I saw it happen with my own two eyes.
Another off-the-wall (but pretty funny) example of this is a story that a
good friend of mine told me about one of his friends. His friend was
talking to a girl at a club, and she was talking about what kinds of
things she enjoyed doing with her spare time.
She said "...I like to go clubbing..."
He came back with "Oh, like baby seals?"
lol... Now, that might not get a girl to come home with you, but it's damn
funny. Love it.
This technique is GREAT for keeping a conversation fresh, fun,
unpredictable, and FUNNY (if you know how to do it just right).
Use it.
Right now you're probably thinking to yourself:
"Wow, that's really great. I sure wish there was a resource available that
could show me hundreds of great ideas like that... so I could know exactly
what to do from when I first meet a woman to the first date... all the way
up until we get physical and beyond..."
Thanks for
your letter,
David D.
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